Updated: Mar 12
Inner confidence is the key to everything.
There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behavior, and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself. Still, they're all redundant if the foundation isn't there. That foundation is the real you that you know deep down you are. The trick is that it takes confidence to find that and to bring out who you are – here are the two keys to absolute inner confidence.
1. Get To Know Your Values
Personal values are a big passion of mine, and I often get carried away with myself when I talk about them. I make no apology for that, though – they're one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are vital in getting genuine inner confidence. Your values are ten thousand feet down inside you, right at the very core of who you are, and they're the building blocks, the foundations, and cornerstones for you. A value is something in yourself, others, or the world most important to you and could include beliefs, progress, family, fun, nature, achievement, or freedom.
Why do some people and situations leave you angry, frustrated, demotivated, or deflated? It's because one or more of your values is being denied, suppressed, or repressed – and we experience that as a negative experience because it's denying a fundamental piece of who you are. You know when you've felt really alive, fantastic? Those are when one or more of your values are being honored, and you can get more of that by living according to them.
Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away. You can have absolute confidence in them because they're always there, just waiting for you to notice and use them. When you know your values, you can start to make choices and align your life around them. It's so simple, and it feels incredible because all that really means is that you're allowing who you are to live in the real world.
2. Exercise the Muscle
Confidence is a muscle; like any muscle, you need to exercise it so that it doesn't shrink and waste away. The problem is that unlike your biceps or glutes, which tend to stay in the same place, your confidence muscle can be harder to find. So how do you develop your biceps or firm up your glutes? Doing exercises designed to work that muscle over time until you see the results you were looking for.
It's just the same with confidence. Let's say you're the kind of person who takes a few risks, goes through each day doing what needs to be done, and does it well but not stretching yourself. You might talk yourself out of doing something because it's too scary or think, 'I'm not good enough,' 'that's not who I am,' or 'I don't really want it anyway.' That kind of person lives within what they know and what keeps them safe and comfortable. The fewer risks they take, the less confident they need to be, so they become less secure.
To work your confidence muscle, you need to be prepared to take risks – big or small. It would help if you were willing to stretch yourself in an unfamiliar direction, to try something new or slightly different. You need to open yourself up to the possibilities around you and push yourself to increase what you know, what you do, and who you are. The more open you are to risk, opportunity, and possibility, the more confident you need to be. So the more confidence you'll develop. That's your confidence muscle – the question is, what are you going to do to exercise it?"
Here are two action steps that one can take to boost their inner confidence within the next 7 days:
Practice affirmations: Spend 10 minutes every morning and evening repeating positive affirmations to yourself. Examples include "I am worthy and deserving of success and happiness" or "I am confident in my abilities and decisions."
Engage in self-care: Take time to do activities that make you feel good, such as exercising, meditating, or reading a book. This will help boost your self-esteem and remind you of your worth.
By taking these two steps, you will be on your way to boosting your inner confidence and feeling more self-assured.
Comment the step that you took below :)
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